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Narcissism

In studying the myth of Narcissus and paralleling this myth with the medically diagnosed condition of being narcissistic, it becomes clear that the spectrum of having this disorder/disease is very broad and to some degree, can be applied to most everyone. Not only individually but it can occur in families or groups, both small and large in numbers.


I have engaged this study of Narcisssus numerous times over my lifetime because family, friends and Beloved Adi Da have all brought this self created illness to my attention. My conclusion is that any strategic, compulsive or repetitive act of narcissistic un-Love cannot be justified. A logic for such choices may be comprehensible but cannot and should not be condoned.


I feel, in a sense, the whole of mankind is suffering from a narcissistic spectrum illness and disorder.


On the other hand, the True Heart of honest, caring people is in fact, the majority of humanity.


Sadly, there is a minority of people who are defining world events that are creating devastating horrors that hurt (and often destroy) the True Heart of the Divine Process, man and nature. So it must be the True Heart voice of every-man, spoken to all beings and things, that can turn the self possessed tide of narcissism.

Beloved Adi Da Teaches, Clarifies, Calls for, Is Aligned with and Encompasses the Divine traditions of humankind embodied in Not-Two Is Peace. There is only One True Divine Heart that binds us all. This state and condition of Being inherently creates a Love Bliss intervention into and surrounds and pervades this world.


If only we would all choose, take responsibility for, hold one another accountable to the One True Self Heart in each and all.


A transfiguring shift can occur NOW through fidelity to Love Itself, wherein abusive, hurtful conflict and war and needless mass killings is not deemed "OK" or justifiable.


See below a compilation of excerpts from experts in the field. A useful self reflection, individually and collectively.


As we learn about the pattern of narcissism, it is essential to recognize the role of the False Self. Narcissistic individuals decided a long time ago that being honest about personal frailties, needs, and misgivings is dangerous. They have concluded that it is too risky to be vulnerable. Therefore, they have a deeply developed pattern of portraying themselves inaccurately.

In any relationship, learning each other’s flaws, mistakes, or weaknesses is inevitable (as is learning about each other’s positives, too). But narcissists, being so committed to the False Self, can hardly bear being discovered as imperfect, so they remain in constant spin mode, even when it makes no sense to do so.

That being the case, when you call out a narcissist regarding an inaccuracy or a frustration you have, instead of discussing it honestly and constructively, they predictably go straight into denial, blame shifting, and angry rebuttals. It’s just what they do. Furthermore, when you catch them in obvious falsehoods, even as you are glaringly accurate, they double down on their dishonesty, appealing to their superior interpretations while reminding you of your inability to see things correctly.

A narcissist’s definition of “fact” is whatever props up their entitlement, or keeps them feeling smug, or keeps them in the favored position over you. And over time, as you have repeated experiences with this pattern, one stark truth becomes abundantly clear: To a narcissist, objective facts are irrelevant. If you wish to discuss matters they deem as inconvenient or indicting, they simply deny what is true and continue with whatever is necessary to keep the False Self propped up.

Inside the pattern of narcissism, dishonesty is first nature. They have lied to themselves for so long and on so many topics that they are incapable of coming to terms with facts.


The narcissist typically runs through a sequence of defenses to discharge painful feelings until he or she finds one that works: unconscious repression. conscious denial. distortion (including exaggeration and minimization), rationalisation and lies.

Often narcissistic personalities are vulnerable to hypochondria because they transform their psychological frailty into physical fragility. Narcissistic personalities may fear falling apart physically because they sometimes know that their sense of self can be abruptly shattered.

Illness is a great way to get attention from caring people. Now, if you read that and feel a little uncomfortable, maybe even defensive, you may be proving my point. We are designed to care for others. If someone is sick, it is very hard for most of us to simply step aside and continue on our way. We want to help. We want to make a difference.

There is an empathy in normal people that moves us to intervene in the suffering of another. That’s normal, and it’s good. But narcissists use this desire in us to get attention and service for themselves.


Generally speaking, those at higher levels of narcissism may have difficulty feeling guilt or remorse over their actions. When a narcissist feels guilt, it's usually a result of what their mistake might have cost them rather than genuinely feeling bad about hurting someone else, says. Although narcissistic people can apologize, they're more likely to do so for their own benefit rather than out of genuine remorse. For example, a narcissist might offer an insincere apology to get something in return.

They are masters of manipulation and can be incredibly persuasive with their lies and exaggerations. They may seem overly confident and self-assured, but in reality, this is just a mask to hide their sense of inadequacy.

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a mental health condition in which people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance or role. They need and seek too much attention and want people to admire them. People with this disorder may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others.

When the NPD lies, he or she is trying to make themselves appear dominant. They lie for self-gain believing that telling mistruths makes them look smarter than the other person. Having a victim at their side who they can lie to provides them with a constant narcissistic supply, someone that fuels their sickness.

Narcissists will fake a future to create the illusion of high investment, strong interest, or deep emotional ties. They want to manipulate you so you believe they are more interested in you than they really are.

While people with narcissism aren't devoid of emotions, but their motivations may be self-focused. They can know they're hurting your feelings, but as long as it elevates their status, they may not care.


Someone living with narcissism does cry. They can feel regret, remorse, and sadness.

But all the nastiness is intertwined with some affection, because the narcissist knows they have to keep up the illusion that they are dominant.

While most people with NPD are not aware that they are narcissists, it's important to remember that no abuse is acceptable or excusable. And you must let them know this.

It is common for people with a narcissistic personality disorder to regret discarding or losing someone, but it does not mean what you might think. If they feel regret, it is not because they hurt you. It is for losing something that they value. You are a possession, not a real person. A narcissist is able to create and use methods that dehumanize people. You are being used for their purposes.

One of the characteristics of a narcissist is the pain of being told “no.” As you've already seen, the one thing they need is to constantly be the center of attention. Furthermore, they want to be respected, admired, followed, and given power over everyone else around them.

While people with narcissism aren't devoid of emotions, their motivations may be self-focused. They can know they're hurting your feelings, but as long as it elevates their status, they may not care.

By pretending they can still be loving, the narcissist makes their victim believe the insults are their own.

The narcissist's favourite sadistic cocktail is brutal honesty coupled with "helpful advice" and "concern" for the welfare of the person attacked. The narcissist blurts out - often unprovoked - hurtful observations.

Often the narcissists perpetual dissatisfaction alienates spouses, friends, and relatives, creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Other narcissistic personalities are vulnerable to hypochondria because they are in touch with their fragile self. They transform their psychological frailty into physical fragility.

People who are narcissistic tend to be defensive, becoming aggressive when their superiority is threatened and that style of defence raises cortisol levels.


Narcissistic depression may also include two symptoms not found in the standard definition of dysthymia: anhedonia (inability to feel pleasure) and psychomotor symptoms (chiefly lethargy or agitation).

However, the grandiosity and need for admiration would be prominent despite the affective symptoms, which would differentiate it from a major depressive disorder.

While an outward show of superiority is a definite part of the narcissistic personality, a sense of superiority (or pursuit of it) is not the central factor of the disorder. The root of the disorder is actually a strict resistance to feeling vulnerable with anyone at any time.

People who are narcissistic tend to be defensive, becoming aggressive when their superiority is threatened

They are hostage to their inflated egos and their false selves. They hurt everyone who genuinely cares for them and isn't able to control their behaviour. A narcissist's very existence depends upon their false self. Unmask them and you end up with a fragile individual who is unable to cope with reality.




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